I hope you don't mind if a grandmom drops by with a question. I have a 4 1/2 soon to be 5 darling grandson who started about 6 mths ago to tell me he hates me, to go away, I'm not invited here, I'm not invited there & that he doesn't want me looking at him.Frankly, I don't know what to do. I raised 3 kids & when they told me they hated me, it was because I punished them. Here I can get this just by walking into the room. Hasn't anyone else run into this problem?
A bit of history: DGS is special needs & he has spent a lot of time with both sets of grandparents because until recently his parents weren't comfortable with him in daycare. I have always been the least favourite grandparent as the others spoil him rotten because of his disability. I have treated him as any other child & I expect him to behave like a normal child. So he has rules when I'm around. I took him to playgroups & toddler classes that no one else was comfortable doing. I take him out to places like beach, park, movies, ice show - yes it's a lot of work as he has mobility problems but I want him to feel as normal as possible. I'm the youngest grandparent & the only one still working.
When he gets hurt or scared & the 4 of us are together, I am the one he turns to 100% for comfort. So, I'm fine with not being the "fun" grandparent. But these comments are getting out of control. If we are alone, I will ignore them then if they continue I will tell him that he is hurting my feelings & we talk about feelings & how words can hurt like sticks. It normally ends with him saying he was just joking & he loves me. However, his father (my SIL) is fed up with this behaviour & if he is around it ends up with DGS being punished which I think is making it worse because DGS now blames me for his punishment.
Dee
