Hello everyone,
My name is Lindsey, and I've been on this board before, love being able to talk to other people who are like me. Anyways, let's begin shall we, in all of my 27 years on this planet, I have NEVER EVER had an interest in kids, even when I was a kid myself, I didn't have many friends. I kept to myself and read mostly, I was not your normal child, I have social anxiety disorder (S.A.D. for short), this goes beyond your normal shyness, I literally get extremely nervous talking to people and the only friends I do have are my husband and his sisters, and one of his sisters I love like a sister and we were close before she had kids, but I am not close with anymore because she has kids. Having S.A.D does not bother me in the least, I've had it most of my life and frankly I find only having family and a few close friends is totally fine with me. Let me get to the point, my family has known that I don't want kids, I have NEVER babysat, I have NEVER took part of vacation Bible school at church, or helped with the nursery like the other teenage girls used too. Even though my family KNOWS this and has KNOWN this for a VERY VERY VERY long time, they STILL constantly ask me if and when I'm going to have kids. I just look at them with this puzzled face, seriously people, you have known I have never wanted kids, I have voiced my opinion on this CLEARLY from the beginning, and yet you ask me when and if I am going to have kids?!
Why do they do this? Does anyone elses parents/family do this? It just confuses the crap out of me when they ask me such idiotic questions, These aren't random strangers I don't know, this is my family, out of anyone in life who gives me more crap about not wanting kids, it's my family more then strangers! I can understand my mom, she's wanted grandkids since before she had kids, she always says if she was able to have grandkids before she had kids she would have. In some way it feels like they are asking me just to get a rise out of me, because I notice it's ONLY at social events like kids' birthday parties where there are other adults around, that they ask me these questions. Like "look here's my crazy daughter who doesn't want kids, look how selfish she's being!" I feel like out of all the people in the world who should support me on this is my parents and family, my older brother does, he doesn't want kids either. Even my mother and father-n-law don't care that my husband and I don't have kids, of course they have 7 children, and already have 3 grandkids from my husband's sister.
My mom will say she doesn't care that we don't have kids, but then 30 seconds later ask are you sure you don't want kids? It's so frustrating, my husband and I are talking about him getting a vasectomy or me getting permanent birth control with our tax refund. We're sick of the constant nagging, and I just can't wait to see my family's faces when they ask again in front of a lot of people, "So when are you two going to have kids?" "Oh we can't, Jeremy got a vasectomy!" I just feel that's the ONLY way anyone will ever shut up on the matter, and now I will shut up on the matter.
Linds
