[w0rdg1rl]

I'm sure this has been asked here before, but I'd love to read some of your best answers to this horribly invasive question.  A friend who has a large family always starts her answer with "thanks for asking" to indicate how rude the question is in the first place.

I told my boss, who asked me about kids like the week I got back from our honeymoon, that I just didn't like the idea of kids I couldn't return to their owner.  I was semi-joking when I said it, but he looked at me like I was insane. 

[w0rdg1rl]

I'm sure this has been asked here before, but I'd love to read some of your best answers to this horribly invasive question.  A friend who has a large family always starts her answer with "thanks for asking" to indicate how rude the question is in the first place.

I told my boss, who asked me about kids like the week I got back from our honeymoon, that I just didn't like the idea of kids I couldn't return to their owner.  I was semi-joking when I said it, but he looked at me like I was insane. 

[bagpipe_mouse]

I've found that "We don't have any plans in that direction" is a good answer. For some people, it allows them the comfort of thinking that you may have plans some day, but just not right now. Of course, some people will press, and then my answer is, "my husband and I feel that procreation is a very private thing, and we don't discuss it with people outside the marriage. We know you'll want to respect our privacy."

[sadkitty70]

I get asked this all the time..oddly my answer shuts people up and I get left alone. I just say, I have never wanted kids. I still dont want kids. I don't enjoy them and I know I wouldn't be happy being a mom. Im not willing to make sacrifices for kids. If that makes me selfish, then yes, Im selfish. But at least Im not bringing children into the world when I don't want them. Its not fair to me and its not fair to them.

People just look at me and say wow, at least you're honest! I never get bugged again. Its weird.

[ivh_lion]

Oddly, I don't have a response I use universally. One would think I'd have an immediate, rehearsed response now, but sometimes the question still catches me off guard. Bagpipe_mouse, I like your simple "We don't have plans" response a lot. Many times, the question comes from a complete stranger, and that's when I'm most likely to just stare dumbfounded at the person for having the audacity to ask something like that. Other times, I base my response on what I know about the person. If I know the person has been trying to have children but hasn't yet, I keep it vague. If I know the person well, I might add a few more details. But I'm at a point in my life where I'm tired of answering the question, so I try to keep the response as short as possible.

[kaloanco]

I haven't been asked that in a long time, maybe because I'm single (not like that's stopped anyone before!)

But a high school aquaintance recently befriended me on FB, then asked , "How many did you end up with?"  What a odd question, but because Im female, they assume I suppose.

I was proud to say zero, she didn't respond to that, then tells me about her kids.   But I don't think she's married.   Ugh talk about being tied down for the rest of your life!

Hahaha