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kmotto2002
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02-22-2012 09:58 AM

Hi there..

It's been a while since I posted in this group but I wanted to drop in and say "HI" and ask a question.

My heart and deepest condolences go out to MaryAnn on the loss of Raymond.  Words escape me. Please try and take care of yourself.

So, a crap load of things have been happening since I left here.

1. Due to HUGE medical bills and HUGE credit card bills, etc.  My STBX and I had to claim for bankruptcy. I tried my hardest to fix things but in the end I couldn't.

2. I filed for divorce from HIM!  Another long drawn out story. We go to court again in April and he's supposed to be OUT of the house on the 1st.

3. Trying to cope with the changes I'm going through and my kids are going through is NOT fun. I have counselors and such in place for the kids.

My question:

How many of you have let your house go into foreclosure because of a divorce??  Neither one of us can afford the house payment on our own. I'm not sure this is the wisest choice but it was the option we were given when we filed for bankruptcy. Will it be hard for me to rent an apartment someplace when I "officially" have to leave this house?

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02-22-2012 09:58 AM

Hi there..

It's been a while since I posted in this group but I wanted to drop in and say "HI" and ask a question.

My heart and deepest condolences go out to MaryAnn on the loss of Raymond.  Words escape me. Please try and take care of yourself.

So, a crap load of things have been happening since I left here.

1. Due to HUGE medical bills and HUGE credit card bills, etc.  My STBX and I had to claim for bankruptcy. I tried my hardest to fix things but in the end I couldn't.

2. I filed for divorce from HIM!  Another long drawn out story. We go to court again in April and he's supposed to be OUT of the house on the 1st.

3. Trying to cope with the changes I'm going through and my kids are going through is NOT fun. I have counselors and such in place for the kids.

My question:

How many of you have let your house go into foreclosure because of a divorce??  Neither one of us can afford the house payment on our own. I'm not sure this is the wisest choice but it was the option we were given when we filed for bankruptcy. Will it be hard for me to rent an apartment someplace when I "officially" have to leave this house?

Thanks

 

 

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Kmotto -
Gosh the board is full of not so great news lately, sorry to hear about all that is happening to you.
Our best bankruptcy voice on the forum is Norma. She is still paying back her debts on a managed plan and she can tell you more from her experiences.
As far as foreclosures and renting, well with as many foreclosures as there have been in the past 4 years, I am sure landlords are a bit more foregiving than they might have been. They do understand people got in trouble due to this economy and if you have a steady job and income, that will really help.
I know that the debt you incur 6 months before filing bankruptcy could still be on your records in some states, so watch when you file. This is so you don't go out and buy a bunch of stuff then file.
One thing you could do is to look for a home with a senior who needs some companionship. Rent could be a lot cheaper and someone like our MaryAnn could get the help they need.
Bankruptcy is a long and hard road, just ask Norma, who is down to about 105 weeks left to go now. The court takes most of her pay for her bills, leaving little to live off of. It is really hard to deal with life's emergencies when they come up if there is no more money to get.
So if you file and have housing costs, then can go live with a senior for less rent, that could help you in the long run.

Divorce is hard, on yourself and on kids. But there is life afterward if you take good care of yourself!

Huggs, we need more of those around here,

Marie
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Hi kmotto,
So sorry to hear of your pending divorce and bankruptcy. Thank goodness you have counselors because divorce is hard ... but I'm here to tell you that you do recover and, if you're like me and Karen, life is so much better once you get over those initial challenges.

I live in Canad, so I'm not sure how relevant this is, but I would like to echo what Marie said about renting. I have two friends who declared bankruptcy and then had to find apartments to rent. Neither experienced difficulties. Landlords are fairly understanding about the current economy.

Kate


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Sorry I cannot answer that question. We filed chapter 13 and we kept the house and are paying for it directly outside of the BK payment plan. If someone checks your check, it might make it more difficult to rent. I'm really not sure on that answer. Good luck on all you life changes! Hope the kids adjust and do OK thru all this.

Norma


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Kelly, it technically wouldn't be a foreclosure inside of the bankruptcy if you give the house back. The trustee will eventually release the house as an asset when the BK discharge is done and then it is up to the mortgage company to either lists nd sell it or sell it at auction, whatever they decide to do. They could evict you right away, they could let you stay in the house until it goes up for auction or for sale, and that would have to be a conversation between your BK attorney and the mortgage company. The best course of action if you can't afford it and know you are going to give it back is to stop paying on the mortgage, save up as mich of the cash as you can and then begin looking for an independent landlord, not An apartment complex that runs credit checks, be completely up front with the landlord or the house, duplex, whatever you want to rent and let them know your situation. You normally will see individuals renting putting less stringent guidelines on who they are willing to rent to. It may take a bigger deposit up front, which is where the advice is to stock up as much cash as you can. You may also find, depending on the state you are in, for utilities, if your credit is shot, that they may require a larger deposit to turn on utilities also, SOS just think about that also. Hugs to you during this difficult time!
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