To be honest it took me several years to become comfortable with my son's diagnosis. There was a lot of pain. I spent time grieving for the son I planned on having, but didn't get. I spent too much energy mourning over the loss of false friends who abandoned me after seeing my son's behavior was so problematic. What happened next was I found new friends (all with children with special needs). It took a while for my family to accept my son, too. But as time went by and he grew and did better, learned to manage everyday activities better, I was encouraged that he would make improvements, and I adjusted my expectations to be more realistic.
I try never to compare him to other kids. I only compare him to how he did last year at the same time. Advocating for him in the schools gave me a place to direct my energy and made me feel close to him (he is not a warm, affectionate child). I learned all I could about autism, sensory integration, etc. I read a lot. I attended a support group in my area for parents like me.
It's important to take care of yourself - eat right, excercise , get plenty of rest. Strive for balance between life, school and therapy. Everyone copes at their own pace. Be gentle on yourself.
