[MNmomof3]

I Hope that you girls are having a good februaury!!

I cannot beleive our BB are 7 months old geeze a lou.  And I hope that everything is going good for everyone.  Ok I need some venting time plz.

January just FLEW by in a blurr.  The 2nd week of Jan my grandma had a stroke (remember last year she fell and brokke her hip) and I was a worried mess. We went to see her the weekend after it happened.  THEN the next friday yaseen came home from school, he was not feeling to well (he looked tired very tired) and he woke up at 1:30 am sick to his stomach. He had the flu.  He was sick all weekend. We got him from school, and then got DD from school who jumped out of the car and ran to the bathroom sick to her stomach.  SHe Got the flu (this was monday.

Then Monday i was not feeling so hot, in the AM my nose was stuffy and by 2:30 i had a fever. By dinner time mytemp 101. 

I had the flu, i coud NOT pick up faizan for anything.  I was dizzy, i had a headache my body ached.  And I begged dh to just log off his work PCs come up and  just help me ......help with anything, help with with faizan.  He came up for a bit, but looked for a way NOT to entertain faizan so i could lay down for a bit. 

At 7 he said he needed to help a friend answer questions for his moms divorce laywer.  Back story on this:  there is a couple that is from the same country as he, they split up.  The husband was clueless abt wht to do and how to go abt this  (wife left him) dh helped him secure legal council WITHOUT listening to the other sideof the story (wife's side) and   he kinda help put the wife in a tight spot based on info from the hsband alone.  Their son is helping MOM and he needed help answer the Discovery questions (which DH and Husband gave the info to lawyer) so instead of telling the son: Hey Sarah is really Sick i need to reschedule for tomorrow ok.........he was down there until after 10 pm.  I just laid upstairs and cried and cried.  I had sucj horrid cramps in my neck, back and arms i could not move.

DD was sooooooo sick she was throwing up and crying.  Tuesday she satyed home and i had DS stay home becuase i could not drive at all.  DD was feeling better tuesday (thank god). but all week I was sick........i was exhausted.  And faizan just does not want to sit in one place heck no he is all over the place makingit super hard on me.  THe house was/ is MESS a disgusting mess. I could not clean and nor did anyone make areal effort to help pick things up

Then faizan got an ear infection two weeks ago.  He was sick and we had long night poor baby hurt so bad he was hitting his little fist on my chest and shoulder he was hrting (YAY for tylenol) but he was sick.  so the following week I got nothing done around here, i could not make a proper dinner let alone clean becuase faizan did not want to be put down

I got grief abt how messy the house was, and I was/still am exhausted to this day

I just cannot win. I am so tired, i have no energy.  I try and try and I cannot get ahead to save my life.  And no one cares. 

I have no one i can call for help, family lives 3 hours away and no once can take time off from work to come up and help me.   DD/DS/DH just seem to think that i need to do everything myself.  I am being run ragged.  I am just drug out tired.

Any words of advice/Prayer? PT/??

[MNmomof3]

I Hope that you girls are having a good februaury!!

I cannot beleive our BB are 7 months old geeze a lou.  And I hope that everything is going good for everyone.  Ok I need some venting time plz.

January just FLEW by in a blurr.  The 2nd week of Jan my grandma had a stroke (remember last year she fell and brokke her hip) and I was a worried mess. We went to see her the weekend after it happened.  THEN the next friday yaseen came home from school, he was not feeling to well (he looked tired very tired) and he woke up at 1:30 am sick to his stomach. He had the flu.  He was sick all weekend. We got him from school, and then got DD from school who jumped out of the car and ran to the bathroom sick to her stomach.  SHe Got the flu (this was monday.

Then Monday i was not feeling so hot, in the AM my nose was stuffy and by 2:30 i had a fever. By dinner time mytemp 101. 

I had the flu, i coud NOT pick up faizan for anything.  I was dizzy, i had a headache my body ached.  And I begged dh to just log off his work PCs come up and  just help me ......help with anything, help with with faizan.  He came up for a bit, but looked for a way NOT to entertain faizan so i could lay down for a bit. 

At 7 he said he needed to help a friend answer questions for his moms divorce laywer.  Back story on this:  there is a couple that is from the same country as he, they split up.  The husband was clueless abt wht to do and how to go abt this  (wife left him) dh helped him secure legal council WITHOUT listening to the other sideof the story (wife's side) and   he kinda help put the wife in a tight spot based on info from the hsband alone.  Their son is helping MOM and he needed help answer the Discovery questions (which DH and Husband gave the info to lawyer) so instead of telling the son: Hey Sarah is really Sick i need to reschedule for tomorrow ok.........he was down there until after 10 pm.  I just laid upstairs and cried and cried.  I had sucj horrid cramps in my neck, back and arms i could not move.

DD was sooooooo sick she was throwing up and crying.  Tuesday she satyed home and i had DS stay home becuase i could not drive at all.  DD was feeling better tuesday (thank god). but all week I was sick........i was exhausted.  And faizan just does not want to sit in one place heck no he is all over the place makingit super hard on me.  THe house was/ is MESS a disgusting mess. I could not clean and nor did anyone make areal effort to help pick things up

Then faizan got an ear infection two weeks ago.  He was sick and we had long night poor baby hurt so bad he was hitting his little fist on my chest and shoulder he was hrting (YAY for tylenol) but he was sick.  so the following week I got nothing done around here, i could not make a proper dinner let alone clean becuase faizan did not want to be put down

I got grief abt how messy the house was, and I was/still am exhausted to this day

I just cannot win. I am so tired, i have no energy.  I try and try and I cannot get ahead to save my life.  And no one cares. 

I have no one i can call for help, family lives 3 hours away and no once can take time off from work to come up and help me.   DD/DS/DH just seem to think that i need to do everything myself.  I am being run ragged.  I am just drug out tired.

Any words of advice/Prayer? PT/??

[cheyfri]

I am so sorry hun. I can't imagine! I hope you're able to get some help and rest soon!

[TXMom4]

I am so sorry. I hope things get better.

I instituted chores for my kids (the oldest is 7 about to be 8) after a long discussion about how we are a family so everyone needs to help around the house. They put away dishes, clear the table, sort laundry, etc. Maybe you could tell them they need to help out more and maybe let them earn tv time or computer time or whatever they like if they help for the week.

Another thought is maybe having a high schooler come over after school for a couple hour to entertain the kids so you can get somethings done around the house. I had a wonderful girl come by twice a week after I had the baby and it was a lifesaver. It gave the kids someone to play with and it freed me up to take care of the baby or nap or house work.

I would also personally just take a day and not do anything other than the bare minimum (like dishes and cooking) and enjoy your kids, relax, and maybe sneak a nap in. All the mess and laundry will be there the next day and hopefully, you will feel a little more refreshed to handle it all.

I really hope everyone stays healthy, you feel better, and that your husband wakes up and helps you!

[MNmomof3]

Thanks girls!!! <3

Here is the kicker my DD will be 14 in 9 days and DS will turn 7 in march. They are so old enough to know what needs to be done and HELP!!

I have called a "family meeting" and talked to everyone (DH too) and the help lasts maybe a day or two then it trails off as if I never said anything.

I should not have to beg and cry for help. I should not have to get my a$$ chewed and lectured about how the house has not looked the same over the past few weeks, it is always cluttered and messy, the bathroom is dirty, dh complains abt how messy his office is getting from the laundry in the laundry room .

DD KNOWS she needs to fold/hang up the laundry meaning check the damn laundry room every day to see what is in there PLEASE.She also is too clean the bathroom too NOT THT DAMN HARD!!

DS KNOWS he needs vacuum the floors and dust that is the "fun" stuff.

Lastnight dh was just griping again and I just told dd that no one gives a crap anymore. and her smart a$$ come Back " Oh I dont do enough around here" and stomped off grumbling.

I flipped out N O YOU DONT> YOU PPL WORRY MOORE ABT PLAYING YOUR STUPID A$$ games or watchng freaking TV and WATCHING me CLEAN instead of getting off you butts and helping,

I am headed for a break down. I consider myself a strong person but I am in over my head and I cannot get back above water.

What can I say or do? I just get snide commnets from DH abt how I need to learn to make do with Faizzan and make things work.


Ok faizan will sit in his walker for 10 mins until he wants to be held........ok 10 mins to try to sum up energy to move as fast as i can, i am just exhausted.

[enicholas2004]

Super big hugs, sweetie!! Sounds like they all need a wake up call. My SO is super lazy and I have started to think he's become the worst sort of role model for my older kids. He does nothing around the house (well, he HAS started bringing the laundry up and down from the basement because I saw a huge spider down there and he does, at least, respect my phobia). My kids have started to take the major lazy way out of doing anything as well. For example, if I ask them to put something away in their room, they bring it up and dump it in front of their door. Or, if I ask for something to be thrown away, they can't be bothered to bring it into the proper trash in the kitchen. They cram it into the tiny trash can in the bathroom. It is sooooo frustrating, so I completely understand what you mean. SO used to be good about getting up at night with Jack, but now he just moans and groans until I end up being the one to get up and Jack isn't a great sleeper at all. He has a horrible habit of going to sleep super early, like 6:00, and I can't get him to stay up later AT ALL. This means that he usually wakes up around 12 or 1 and then is up for the day by 5. Last night was the worst in a long time. He woke up at 9 and I was up with him until after midnight. Then, he woke up for the day at 4. I had a delusional feeling that SO would get up with him at 4 and stay with him until he went to work at 6...but oh no. I got "Well, I need to get up for work in a little while. YOU have the day off so you can rest later." Right. I can "rest" later. I have two other children who do not nap.....shall I just leave a 5 and 6 year old unattended while I sleep all day?? Jerk.

So sorry...I've turned this into my own rant. The only other thing I wanted to suggest is something someone told me once, but I was too OCD to let it really work. Maybe you aren't as crazy as I am, LOL. Go on strike as far as housework goes. No laundry, no washing dishes, no nothing until they wake up and realize that they need to pitch in. I did try it, but I couldn't handle a disgusting house. If you can overlook that for awhile, maybe it will work for you? Good luck!