[cmtasha]

Tim Gunn: "I Haven't Had Sex in 29 Years"

Beloved Project Runway judge Tim Gunn has always been a bit of a closed book when it comes to his personal life -- he's more of an attentive listener than a sharer. But on Tuesday's edition of his new ABC talk show The Revolution, the 58-year-old style maven opened up -- big-time -- about his love life.

"I haven't had sex in 29 years," the openly gay Gunn admitted on the episode, which focused on tips to jump-starting one's sex life. "Do I feel like less of a person because of it? No...."

[cmtasha]

Tim Gunn: "I Haven't Had Sex in 29 Years"

Beloved Project Runway judge Tim Gunn has always been a bit of a closed book when it comes to his personal life -- he's more of an attentive listener than a sharer. But on Tuesday's edition of his new ABC talk show The Revolution, the 58-year-old style maven opened up -- big-time -- about his love life.

"I haven't had sex in 29 years," the openly gay Gunn admitted on the episode, which focused on tips to jump-starting one's sex life. "Do I feel like less of a person because of it? No...."

[deedle7544]

I read this earlier, all I can say is WOW!

[mirandarr8]

Go Tim Gunn! He's a very interesting, talented, compassionate guy. In other news, this week's episode of "House" (yet another semi-guilty pleasure, go figure) featured an asexual couple. There was a line about the difference between celibacy and asexuality and I was set to thinking. The woman said "no, celibacy is a choice, asexuality is an identity." I was all "hmmm" about that one. Of course it turned out that neither one of the couple was truly asexual, as the husband had an underlying pathology and the wife actually WANTED to have sex, but was willing to live without it when she thought that was what it took to be with him, since he identified as asexual. I saw it like the other side of what I do. I'm willing to live with mostly unwanted and unenjoyable sex, if that's the price for being with my DH. It is an okay sacrifice to make, and let's face it, we all make sacrifices to live harmoniously with the ones we love.

[mol42]

Interesting.  I certainly experienced the celibacy I chose (rather than the rubbish sporadic sex) as a behavior, and I was definitely still sexual (part of my identity).  I sometimes wonder whether that "orientation" is similar to what gays report, that they "know" their identity from an early age.

Afraid I wouldn't be able to say that, if my partner were asexual, that it would be an OK sacrifice for me to make, because it would be assaulting my identity, like cutting off limbs, self-harming.

I was wondering whether, because it's not an identity thing so much for you (is that true?), then it's possible to make that sacrifice (I'm not diminishing the level of that by the way).

[mirandarr8]

oops, communication breakdown! I wasn't identifying as asexual, per se. I was just acknowledging it as a viable sexuality/identity. I also wasn't trying to say that it would an acceptable sacrifice for EVERYONE to do what the wife in the show did, just that I "got it" and could easily see the comparison between her choice and my own sacrifices. Actually, because she knew who he was on the front end, she got to make an informed choice about whether that would be something she felt like she could do. Sort of like me with the open relationship I'm in. I knew on the front end that he wanted that, I was okay with it, for the most part (we had some bumps in that road, but got by them.) On the other side, I lived asexually in my previous marriage for a while, that didn't work out for me either, I went beserk with strangers at the first opportunity. I definitely identify as LL (and not NL) within a LTR, HL outside of LTR. Actually my sexuality is really fluid with the exception of that LL in the LTR thing. THAT doesn't seem to change for me. It is part of who I am.