im 33 and have not had many partners, i was married to a man who turned out to be gay. im with someone new now who has had alot of sexual experience (plus used to be a swinger!!!) but when we have sex its awful, we love each other but its me who is the problem. i can get aroused quickly and think of sex with him all the time, but the problem is we dont connect when we have sex. he knows a womans body better than i know my own, but i cant switch my mind off and get in that sexual zone i think of everything going on other than what we are doing. my confidence is sooooo distroyed, i darent make the first move or suggestion because hes sooo experienced i feel as though ive disappointed him before ive started, hes tried a few things but it hasnt worked. i feel as though i am a frigid reck when it comes to sex, i cant relax im sooo nervous and tense i just ruin everything, i dont climax or orgasm, theres no work up because ive got myself in a state before he touches me cause i want him soooo bad, as soon as i make a move, i back off because i feel as though i have messed up before i even started. i need help with my confidence, lack of experience and most of all my bloody mind, i just need to feel in the moment of here and now but i cant. please help as i want this relationship to last and i think hes getting a bit fed up of nothing working.
