[titchy123]

Yesterday AP was texting me. Last night I went out with some girlfriends, he text me but I didn't see it for a while. About an hour later I replied.

This morning he text me to say he was asleep when the text came. His wife couldn't read what I said (he has a lock on his phone) but saw it was from me and is now suspicious. So in his words let's cool things for a bit.

I don't know anymore than that. Have no idea what my number is saved under on his phone.

I feel physically sick, I feel like I can't breathe, I feel stupid...the list goes on. I haven't replied I don't know what to say and I'm scared to reply. Help! The thought of a D day for either of us terrifies me. I don't know what to do, so thought I'd turn to you guys for some good advice, or to just calm me down. Thanks.

[titchy123]

Yesterday AP was texting me. Last night I went out with some girlfriends, he text me but I didn't see it for a while. About an hour later I replied.

This morning he text me to say he was asleep when the text came. His wife couldn't read what I said (he has a lock on his phone) but saw it was from me and is now suspicious. So in his words let's cool things for a bit.

I don't know anymore than that. Have no idea what my number is saved under on his phone.

I feel physically sick, I feel like I can't breathe, I feel stupid...the list goes on. I haven't replied I don't know what to say and I'm scared to reply. Help! The thought of a D day for either of us terrifies me. I don't know what to do, so thought I'd turn to you guys for some good advice, or to just calm me down. Thanks.

[aphrodite-n-taurus]

Titchy, not calling your AP liar but I'm a bit skeptical.

It wasn't that long ago that you wrote that he was wanting some space, now this? Also, if he has a lock on his phone, how would his W be able to view the message? And if he really thought there was a dday looming, wouldn't he warn you to NOT contact him under any circumstance until he contacted you to give you an update rather than react with 'let's cool things for a bit', without any further details?

I don't know, something doesn't sound right here.

[titchy123]

Thanks so much for your reply A&T, I've had the whole thing running through my head and you're right I'm starting to doubt it too. The more I think clearly about it, the more things don't add up.
Our exchange of texts yesterday were quite intense...we had a bit of an 'us' discussion, how we'd work in RL, not that that would ever happen but it was one of those fairytale discussions.
I don't know how the lock thing works. However I know if my H saw anything yes I would say do not contact me, not send a wishy washy text such as his.
I started to doubt the truth earlier but then got annoyed with myself for doubting him, so thank you for what you wrote.
Why say such a thing? I was the one who brought up the space thing to which he agreed but afterwards said I didn't really want it (i updated my post on that for the long version).
I'm beginning to think he's a very immature and insecure individual...and selfish.

[Dreamluv2010]

Hi titchy, on iphone you can set the texts so that u can only see who it is from and not see the message unless u unlock the phone. I have been through the ddays on his sides and after cooling things down for a couple of weeks he's always come back to me, we would only email during that time. Hopefully things will calm down soon.

[bsbsker]

titchy, depending on the phone and the sms ap he is, it can be set to show just that you received a new text. My android phone is currently set that if i get a text, locked phone or not, all one can see is "new message". I can also color code the notification per contact in my address book. This sounds shady to me.