hello all, I have been lurking for a while. Here is an update on me...my H is having mid-life crisis which has lead him to the realization that we got married to young and he wants to be by himself (although he fully admits he's not really sure about that). Finances are not making it an easy transition, separation or whatever you want to call it. We have a huge mortgage that neither one of us can afford separately and still have a life... So we are taking it day by day, he says we are not celebrating our wedding anniversary in March. While anyone who knows my story, knows I have wanted this very thing, but it still hurts. As far as my friend/AP, we still talk everyday. However, since all of this has been going on, I have not focused on him as an AP but as a friend. He has been a very good friend, helping me see things from an unbiased perspectvie and offering great advice. Interestingly enough, through this we are having some serious conversation with one another and are getting closer and closer as friends. He is sharing more and more of himself with me, yesterday he shared that he cries everyday about his grandmother's passing. He also shared that he knows she is looking down on him and that she is proud of him but that he needs to do better and make better decisions (that took me back to a few of the comments he made about a PA). There are times where we both slip up and cross that line but they are different than they once were, I am really seeing him as a friend now.
