[Live1Day]

So I get home today from a cat scan. And lookee here, there's a Fed Ex package.  My heart starts thudding and I see his handwriting and instead of leaving it sit for a few hours (like I did w/ the VDay package) I bring it in and get it open. It's a Hallmark jewlery box (for our 2 yr old) and it says daddy's girl on top. And then there's a card. Little early for Easter, right..but the card does not reference Easter. It says something about being a hug. And again, he writes a lot in it. I'm thinking this is to tear at me..a couple excerpts - 'Dad IS NOT happy with how things are' 'Daddy is having hard times, I just wish I could see you' 'I wish I could turn back the hands of time, cause I'd be with you if I could'.

I'm dying. My head is pounding and my eyes are crying..c'mon now..she is two years old. She can't read a card. He knows what he's doing.

god

[Live1Day]

So I get home today from a cat scan. And lookee here, there's a Fed Ex package.  My heart starts thudding and I see his handwriting and instead of leaving it sit for a few hours (like I did w/ the VDay package) I bring it in and get it open. It's a Hallmark jewlery box (for our 2 yr old) and it says daddy's girl on top. And then there's a card. Little early for Easter, right..but the card does not reference Easter. It says something about being a hug. And again, he writes a lot in it. I'm thinking this is to tear at me..a couple excerpts - 'Dad IS NOT happy with how things are' 'Daddy is having hard times, I just wish I could see you' 'I wish I could turn back the hands of time, cause I'd be with you if I could'.

I'm dying. My head is pounding and my eyes are crying..c'mon now..she is two years old. She can't read a card. He knows what he's doing.

god

[chipperchick]

Perhaps, if he does this again - just return to sender? This really is tantamount to harassment, since the cards really are to you.

[geoteo]

Didn't you mention that there's a no-contact order? If so, this is contact, and he has broken the law. If not, you may be able to get your attorney to seek such an order on the grounds that he is harassing you.

[Live1Day]

We do have a no contact..but everything is addressed to the baby. The card is addressed and written to her- so I don't think I will get anywhere..even though the obvious is our daughter is young and can't read- lots of people give cards to kids. The verbiage in this one sounds familiar..I know he knows I have to read it. If he sends anything else I guess I should just return to sender. I feel so sad...but at least there is a part of me that is yelling back, well if you don't like your life and you miss your baby girl, then get your sh*t together and do something about it!!

But it still hurts. I should've never opened the card.

[geoteo]

I don't think the courts are naive enough to believe that babies open their own mail, but of course I am not an officer of the court, so maybe I'm the naive one.

In any case, you are entitled to know for sure whether what he is doing skirts the law or breaks it.   It's not as trivial as it seems, because failure to react will embolden him, and cause him to push harder.

I am so sorry he is hurting and upsetting you this way--these people make me speechless with rage.