[peacelove24]

hi everyone , I am confused and need some help from you . I am 44 he is 52 . we've been together almost 14 years . I do live with him . since the beginning of december he needs sex 2 to 3 times if not more a day. every conversation is about sex I work full time he does not work . he watches pornos and looks at magazines and masturbate everyday also . I have to have sex before I can go to sleep and before I can get out of bed in the morning , if I don't there is heck to pay with an argument I cannot even get up to use the restroom in the morning or he takes it is he's not getting any . he has became very obsessive with sex . every time I cook or clean or try to watch tv which is no more than 5 hours a week and that including weekends . I get yelled at telling me everything else is more important . he will act like a 2 year old having a temper tantrum. sex has became no more than a tally mark on the calendar he literally does keep track ! I will give him sex just to save myself the argument . sex does not even last for 1 minute . he crawls on and does this thing and that is the end. it has gotten to the point I don't even want to go home from work. it is a battle as soon as I walk in the door for sex! I am a on the road sales rep and have computer work to do when I get home . same job I have had since I've met him he thinks as soon as I walk in the door my day is done. he feels it should be all about him and nothing or nobody else. 1 day I woke up with a migraine and was getting sick in the bathroom and he came in yelling and screaming at me calling me names because he didnt get any sex. I am also woke up many times during the night because he wants to talk about sex argue about sex or wanting sex! I am burned out!!!!! I talked with him this morning after the sex and told him again how I feel and told him he is acting like an addicted looking for his next fix. He has not always been this way . I just do not understand sex and love are not supposed to be like this . can somebody please help me try to figure this out I am at my wits end every day it is an argument with him getting sex!!!!!! =(

[peacelove24]

hi everyone , I am confused and need some help from you . I am 44 he is 52 . we've been together almost 14 years . I do live with him . since the beginning of december he needs sex 2 to 3 times if not more a day. every conversation is about sex I work full time he does not work . he watches pornos and looks at magazines and masturbate everyday also . I have to have sex before I can go to sleep and before I can get out of bed in the morning , if I don't there is heck to pay with an argument I cannot even get up to use the restroom in the morning or he takes it is he's not getting any . he has became very obsessive with sex . every time I cook or clean or try to watch tv which is no more than 5 hours a week and that including weekends . I get yelled at telling me everything else is more important . he will act like a 2 year old having a temper tantrum. sex has became no more than a tally mark on the calendar he literally does keep track ! I will give him sex just to save myself the argument . sex does not even last for 1 minute . he crawls on and does this thing and that is the end. it has gotten to the point I don't even want to go home from work. it is a battle as soon as I walk in the door for sex! I am a on the road sales rep and have computer work to do when I get home . same job I have had since I've met him he thinks as soon as I walk in the door my day is done. he feels it should be all about him and nothing or nobody else. 1 day I woke up with a migraine and was getting sick in the bathroom and he came in yelling and screaming at me calling me names because he didnt get any sex. I am also woke up many times during the night because he wants to talk about sex argue about sex or wanting sex! I am burned out!!!!! I talked with him this morning after the sex and told him again how I feel and told him he is acting like an addicted looking for his next fix. He has not always been this way . I just do not understand sex and love are not supposed to be like this . can somebody please help me try to figure this out I am at my wits end every day it is an argument with him getting sex!!!!!! =(

[winter2007]

Are you married to him? I think you need to ask yourself why you would want to be with this man. He is an addict and I am going to say it straight - this will continue unless he gets help. So get the strength and get out, UNLESS, he takes steps to deal with this addiction.

[peacelove24]

No we are not married. He never has been and I am divorced. I feel he will never commit to marriage, although he said he would like to think he will get married before he dies.

[tobermory]

Please leave this man and get yourself some therapy. Why would you WANT to marry a man who spends the day watching porn and masturbating and at best, wants to make a commitment before he dies? Even if you remove the sexual abuse, and that is exactly what he is doing to you,  you emphatially deserve better than this. However, I am not at all certain that you understand that you deserve better. Let me assure you, you do.

Tobermory

[peacelove24]

Thank you. I do know I deserve better. Everyday I am munipulated into thinking I'm the one with the problem if I don't have sex on his demand. Just posted this to find out from others. Thank you so much =) its great to know its not me and this situation is just sick!