Yes everything he wrote in the card WAS for you...he directed it at the baby so he could say he was not contacting you....but he KNOWS you would have to read it aloud to the baby IF you were going to at all and that would mean you read EVERY word...and if you look at exactly what he wrote, it was all guilt trip for you...
Pack everything up in the box, including the card, stick it somewhere out of sight out of mind and when your baby is older (like 21) you can give it to her along with anything else he sends to manipulate you...assuming she even cares about him.
If you let her have the things he sent now, they will be a constant reminder for you of him...that is what he is wanting...no law says you have to give it to her NOW...you can give it to her eventually...if you are questioned by the courts why you did not give it to her now, you can ask how he knew you didn't, and you can point out the inappropriate toys for her age at that time.
Something you can do is write long letters to him...tell him everything you wish you could tell him face to face....let your anger and frustration out in these letters....then fold the letters up and toss them in the fire place or tuck them in a box in the attic....
If you live near a lake or body of water, you can go gather some rocks, take them home and write words on them in paint or marker...these words would be words you are feeling and experiencing...then take them down to the water and throw them in .... that will symbolize the getting rid of those feelings.....
If that is not an option, gather some nice landscaping rocks (bigger ones) and get some water based markers...write those words and feelings on those rocks as you are dealing with them....next time it rains, or when the yard gets watered...those words will wash away....then they are ready for another session of processing.....just some ideas for you to ponder.
