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lovemysheep
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Registered: 10-12-2005

Elaine, what would you have thought?

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02-20-2012 08:52 PM

My oldest DD has a "friend" who lives in Australia.  He had been here for a year a little over a year ago on a Student Exchange.  He'd gone back and they had this sort of relationship via the Internet until she called him once and he put her on hold for about 15 minutes while talking to people in the background.  She eventually hung up without talking to him.  He called her back about a week or so later and told her that he couldn't remember the phone call ...  Anyway, she unfriended him on Facebook and didn't have any contact with him for the past six months or so until he called her this weekend.  He told her that he was going to come to Canada with four of his friends for about a year and wanted her to come back with him after her first semester at University and finish the second semester in Australia.  He apparently is going to pay for everything (I don't think he's talking about tuition, though).  He knows she's got a boyfriend who already told DD that he's going to break up with her if she's going ...

So her Dad thinks it's a great opportunity.  I think it's crazy and that this guy is hoping for "something", I don't trust him as far as I can throw him and that it's so rude of him to ask her to come with him even though she's got a boyfriend.  I also told her that if she's leaving half way through her first year that we'd be paying full price for only half the year she was there.  I also told her that I can't afford to simply send her money to come back if something happened over there or go and get her for that matter.

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lovemysheep
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Elaine, what would you have thought?

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02-20-2012 08:52 PM

My oldest DD has a "friend" who lives in Australia.  He had been here for a year a little over a year ago on a Student Exchange.  He'd gone back and they had this sort of relationship via the Internet until she called him once and he put her on hold for about 15 minutes while talking to people in the background.  She eventually hung up without talking to him.  He called her back about a week or so later and told her that he couldn't remember the phone call ...  Anyway, she unfriended him on Facebook and didn't have any contact with him for the past six months or so until he called her this weekend.  He told her that he was going to come to Canada with four of his friends for about a year and wanted her to come back with him after her first semester at University and finish the second semester in Australia.  He apparently is going to pay for everything (I don't think he's talking about tuition, though).  He knows she's got a boyfriend who already told DD that he's going to break up with her if she's going ...

So her Dad thinks it's a great opportunity.  I think it's crazy and that this guy is hoping for "something", I don't trust him as far as I can throw him and that it's so rude of him to ask her to come with him even though she's got a boyfriend.  I also told her that if she's leaving half way through her first year that we'd be paying full price for only half the year she was there.  I also told her that I can't afford to simply send her money to come back if something happened over there or go and get her for that matter.

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layneo
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Sorry I took so long to reply

 

No, I wouldn't trust him either Brigitte and would be very concerned if my daughter was considering that.  What would happen if she did come here and the friendship ended?  She would be all alone here.  And can she trust him to pay for everything, what would he expect in return?

Having said that, our niece left Australia at the age of 18, after just one year of university, to go to Canada for 6 months to be with her Canadian boyfriend.  She is now 30, married to him and the mother of a gorgeous little girl.

 

Elaine

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lovemysheep
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Thanks, Elaine. I showed my DD your reply to let her know it's not just me who thinks this way ... I'm glad it worked out for your niece. At least she was in a real relationship, but my DD isn't even in a relationship with this guy anymore. Also we had heard from a friend of DD's who moved to her school this past year that she had seem him with many girlfriends during the time he was supposed to be seeing my DD. So that in itself makes me wonder about how honest he is.

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layneo
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I don't think I would trust him as far as I could kick him Brigitte.  Not all Aussie boys are like this young man, there are some lovely guys around, he just doesn't seem to be one of them!

 

Elaine

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lovemysheep
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Elaine, totally agree with you there. I know he's one of the bad bunches and unfortunately DD ended up with him ... She's still looking at the University in Ottawa these days - more seriously then before it seems to me ...

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