[shywon]

Would you have one?  Have you had one?

It's been almost a year since I've done the deed, and that time barely counted (long story...NOT a good experience).  Before that, it was something like 2 1/2 years.  It really feels like it's been over three years since I've had "it." 

There's a guy that hangs out at the bar I go to.  He's hot.  I'll admit, I like looking at him and have thought about getting him naked more than once.  I flirt a little, in my own subtle way.  I don't think he's the dating type, though.  I think he's more the type to have a little fun with.  I wonder...if he tried, would I let him?  I'm conflicted on the issue.  On one hand, it's been a long time!  On the other hand, would I regret it?  Would I feel used?  I have had a ONS before.  Once I had no regrets and the other time I did.  The difference being that the first time I wanted to and the second time I didn't and let myself be convinced.

What are your thoughts?

[shywon]

Would you have one?  Have you had one?

It's been almost a year since I've done the deed, and that time barely counted (long story...NOT a good experience).  Before that, it was something like 2 1/2 years.  It really feels like it's been over three years since I've had "it." 

There's a guy that hangs out at the bar I go to.  He's hot.  I'll admit, I like looking at him and have thought about getting him naked more than once.  I flirt a little, in my own subtle way.  I don't think he's the dating type, though.  I think he's more the type to have a little fun with.  I wonder...if he tried, would I let him?  I'm conflicted on the issue.  On one hand, it's been a long time!  On the other hand, would I regret it?  Would I feel used?  I have had a ONS before.  Once I had no regrets and the other time I did.  The difference being that the first time I wanted to and the second time I didn't and let myself be convinced.

What are your thoughts?

[musiclover12]

The only time I think I would let myself do that & not regret it is if maybe I was on vacation, met a hot guy and didn't have any expectations of seeing him again (I can only wish that would happen).  I don't think I would feel comfortable doing it w/ someone who I would be seeing on a frequent basis.  Or maybe if it was someone I was good friends with & we both knew we didn't want a relationship but we wanted to get our needs met.

[shywon]

That was actually the situation with the guy I didn't regret- I was on vacation and he was good looking, assertive, and didn't make it a secret that he was after sex. 

I'm thinking this guy would make a good FWB if I could handle it.  I did it a long time ago and it wasn't a problem, but I'm not sure I could do it now.  But gosh...a girl's got needs!!

[ladybookworm]

I think a guy on vacation is probably the best way to go even though I've never done that. Years ago I did have a ons with a guy that I had no hope of getting into a relationship with given that he was emotionally unavailable. He was extremely attractive and very hot for me. At the time I couldn't fathom what he saw in me (and I'm not sure I get it now lol), but it was extremely flattering to be wanted so I went for it. Twice. The sex was ok, no regrets after even though I saw him around quite a bit.

In general ons don't appeal to me. Sure the urge to get some is always there, but then its just ok and I wonder why I was so in the mood for it. Fwb's don't provide greater satisfaction either. And it quickly becomes clear that you're the "friend" he's too embarrassed to tell anyone he knows so the only time he's in touch is for booty calls. Not for me, but to each their own. Ultimately I'd rather have a bf and have ok sex with him, at least he'd actually like me and not just the sex.

[shywon]

I'd definitely prefer to have a boyfriend, too.  It's been over 3 1/2 years since I've had one though, so I've almost given up on that thought.  I've almost forgotten what it feels like!

I always wonder what a guy sees in me if he's flirting.  I pretend to be confident, but honestly, I'm not really.  When the hot guy flirts with me (and it's not often) I usually just assume he's trying to get in my pants and nothing more.  In fact, I assume that about most men who flirt with me these days because none of them actually ask me out.