Venting About Friends
Fiance's Best Friend's Wife says she's "intimidated" by me
I am just finishing up college and so excited to be marrying the man of my dreams this summer 
One of his groomsmen is also his roommate, and at one point the fiance, groomsman, gman's wife and I all worked together. I am the "new kid" in this circle of friends.
The Gman's wife is close to me in age. I thought we were pretty good, yet casual friends. We had a few moments where we shared some really personal stuff and I truly admire the work she does to keep her little family with Gman and their dogs
I recently learned, however, that she has been telling our mutual friends that she is intimidated by me. She thinks that I try too hard to be friends with her husband (this concerns me, because I am certainly not trying to threaten their relationship). I just want everyone to get along. I really don't want to be that girl that forces her future husband to get rid of old friends. Gman's wife and I have very different perosnalities, but I truly believe that we can be good friends.
A few weeks ago, we were planning a bday party for a mutual friend. Gman's wife wanted everyone to pay for hotel rooms in the city, but I politely decilned that portion of the evening because we can't afford it. Somehow this led to us being removed from the invite list and she went around telling everyone that I wasn't letting my fiance go to the party. We had been planning on going out with them the whole time. I had to undo all of the rumors that we were mad at the bday girl, and then the whole bday party was just awkward.
I also have put in 2 weeks notice at the job we all used to work at where the gman is a manager. He was obviously dissappointed that I was leaving, but my new job pays better, and we all knew I wouldnt work their forever. His wife has told all of our coworkers that I didn't give them any notice and the way I left was "illegal" and "takes advatage of the friendship". I'm not sure what to do at this point. My fiancee is angry about the whole situation, but i don't want this to lead to him ending his friendship or making our wedding awkward. I am torn between trying to ignore it , or confronting her and trying to work through our differences. The reality is that we will probably be spending a lot of time together over the next few months.
Fiance's Best Friend's Wife says she's "intimidated" by me
I am just finishing up college and so excited to be marrying the man of my dreams this summer One of his groomsmen is also his roommate, and at one point the fiance, groomsman, gman's wife and I all worked together. I am the "new kid" in this circle of friends.
The Gman's wife is close to me in age. I thought we were pretty good, yet casual friends. We had a few moments where we shared some really personal stuff and I truly admire the work she does to keep her little family with Gman and their dogs
I recently learned, however, that she has been telling our mutual friends that she is intimidated by me. She thinks that I try too hard to be friends with her husband (this concerns me, because I am certainly not trying to threaten their relationship). I just want everyone to get along. I really don't want to be that girl that forces her future husband to get rid of old friends. Gman's wife and I have very different perosnalities, but I truly believe that we can be good friends.
A few weeks ago, we were planning a bday party for a mutual friend. Gman's wife wanted everyone to pay for hotel rooms in the city, but I politely decilned that portion of the evening because we can't afford it. Somehow this led to us being removed from the invite list and she went around telling everyone that I wasn't letting my fiance go to the party. We had been planning on going out with them the whole time. I had to undo all of the rumors that we were mad at the bday girl, and then the whole bday party was just awkward.
I also have put in 2 weeks notice at the job we all used to work at where the gman is a manager. He was obviously dissappointed that I was leaving, but my new job pays better, and we all knew I wouldnt work their forever. His wife has told all of our coworkers that I didn't give them any notice and the way I left was "illegal" and "takes advatage of the friendship". I'm not sure what to do at this point. My fiancee is angry about the whole situation, but i don't want this to lead to him ending his friendship or making our wedding awkward. I am torn between trying to ignore it , or confronting her and trying to work through our differences. The reality is that we will probably be spending a lot of time together over the next few months.
If she was intimidated by you why would she say things about you that she knows you might find out about? Ignore her, it sounds like she is looking for attention to be honest and no-one gets more attention than a 'victim'. It will all blow over soon enough when people realise what she is doing and get bored of her allegations. Bright blessings
